Thursday 18 August 2005

Looks VS Personality

Yin & Yang. You can't experience the good without knowing what they bad feels like. Without pain we would fail to completely comprehend the bliss of being glad; purely because we've got nothing to compare it against. If shades of 'happy' were the only the way our emotions functioned we wouldn't be as grateful.

It's like saying that everything will be okay when two hijacked planes collided into the twin towers. That everyone will come out safe and sound and tomorrow will carry on as usual. But it's not. The suffering of those unfortunate victims brought the public together. The act of salvaging the hurt under vast amounts of rubble required the will of those who were fortunate enough not to be inside those buildings or passengers of that plane. Why it takes such a tragedy to bring the rest of the world closer together, I don't know. I guess it's one of the first questions I'll ask God when I get there. But for the time being there's no use pondering the answer to a question that doesn't exist on earth. In my opinion, maybe the events of September 11 has taught the rest of the world to get our act together. Not to wait for a catastrophe before we lend a helping hand to a stranger. It's a shame that hundreds have to die before we listen.

I don't ignore the bad in the world. But that shouldn't be an excuse to exclude the good either. A handful of people may disagree with some, or perhaps everything I write in my blogs. But that goes without saying I'm not trying to please every reader either. It's the people who compliment my writing and beg for more that keep me bothered to write. I write for them. I'm not trying to brainwash anyone into believing the world is a squeaky clean haven or if you think like me you'll be a better person.

I'm not aiming at being unrealistic, but we can all dream can't we? Dream that there is a good looking someone out there with a bonus personality. Realistically speaking, some people marry for looks, some people marry for money, some people marry for the happiness of marrying a good looking rich person. Realistically speaking, looks and money only go so far. Realistically speaking, personality only goes so far as well.

Looks. If that's all it takes to make you happy, then go ahead, marry the guy! We'd rather you be happy with the good looking guy than miserable with the good hearted guy. And that's reality.

But I tend to write for one audience in particular. The people who go for someone with persona. Someone who'll argue back, someone who'll ask questions, someone who captivates us through with their insights alone.

You're only blessed with looks. In saying so I don't include plastic surgery. We don't have the luxury of opting to be good, average or bad looking when we're born. But to an extent, everyone has the personal willpower to eliminate bad attitudes and enhance the good.

No doubt, looks capture attention, but only a nice personality wins the heart and mind. You can't purchase finest quality packet's of 'personality' over the counter and apply combinations of traits on your face like make up every morning. A layer of humour to conceal any bad qualities lurking inside and some friendliness over the cheeks, topped off with some gloss finished morals for added shine. If only it was that easy. The soul is something worked upon, over years of living and experiences, overcoming them and using those mistakes to your advantage.

Nothing lasts forever. Everything fades with time. Looks more so than personality, but yes, they both deteriorate. But we're only around for a certain amount of time so we might as well make the most of it. Just like looks, everyone's personality is different. If looks are enough to keep you occupied in your lifetime, do yourself a favour and go for that sleek, well groomed stylish hunka-man . If personality is enough to keep you enthralled until you pass then go for the spiderman geek who no matter how hard you try can't seem to resist.

Ultimately, we're ALL just seeking satisfaction, and satisfaction comes in a multitude of shapes, sizes and colours. There's no exact definition and satisfaction varies with the person.

As I say: "Whatever crumbles YOUR cookie; because in the end YOU'RE the one who's going to end up eating it" Finely Ground or Super Chunky?

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