Smoke & Tell

If a tree falls in the woods and no one is around to hear it, does it still make sound?

Or better yet - if a guy smokes behind his girlfriend’s back, and she wasn’t there to see it, has he still broken his promise?

As of late I’ve noticed people doing things their partners believe they either (1) never did or (2) don’t do anymore. It can involve smoking as shown in the example above, or it can be the odd marijuana joint. It could involve talking – maybe even catching up with someone you had (or still do have) a thing for.

It’s no wonder why some people like to keep their love lives and their social lives in separate bubbles, and why the other unrelentingly proposes for a merger.

But did anyone ever stop to think about what the mutual friends go through?

We have to go about keeping the trust of one while betraying the other: because God knows if I was her I’d wish someone had told me earlier (you might have to read that a couple of times for it to make sense).

You might think you’re the victim of a controlling partner who made you hide things from them to keep your sanity, but we’re collateral damage when word gets out.

Whether we were friends with your partner before you guys started dating, or whether you introduced us – we lose the respect of that person because it becomes obvious we too were conspirators.

So have mercy on us next time you tell us not to tell your girlfriend. We appreciate that you're confiding in us, and of course we’re here for you – but can we suggest that as a new years resolution you be more honest in your relationship?

Love, Noeline.
xox