When you see a girl at the party wearing a top from the supré range two years old, the rest of the girls bitch about how she should 'get over it' and buy a new one.
When someone mourns the loss of a departed loved one, everyone else, after offering their condolences, say to each other 'don't worry, she'll get over it'.
As if 'getting over it' will almost deny it of ever being funny, ever being a nice looking top, ever being someone who meant the world to you.
I think people mistake 'getting over it' with 'moving on'. I'm not about to blog about my encounter with the lame joke I found unbelievably funny, the girl at the dance party who wore an old season top, or the time my friend lost her grandmother... but about how this whole get over it and moving on thing relates to relationships.
Here's a question for you: Does anybody every really get over anyone?
Most of us have probably been in a relationship and pondered over past ones, only to feel guilty. Had you given that fight a little more time, would you have eventually got back together? Would hearing how he REALLY felt behind the Whatever's, the Dont-Talk-To-Me's and I-Hate-You's make you take him back?
If you've reminised about an ex-boyfriend, you're NOT over him. But hold your horses, don't pack your bags for the 6 day 7 night guilt trip just yet.
The way I see it, no one's never completely over anyone. Because to be over someone is to say that what the both of you shared amounted to nothing in the end, that you didn't grow as a person, and that you learnt nothing from being with him.
People who have properly moved on don't get over their past relationships, because the x-men (ex-boyfriends) still treated you like a princess in the beginning and crowned themselves King of I-Could'nt Care-Less-About-You-Land, they still made empty promises, and didn't keep their word about staying in contact after breaking up... memories of which still hurt.
They hurt because you're not over it.
People who have properly moved on don't get over their past relationships, because the x-men still wrote that love song dedicated to you, gave up nights out with his friends to be with or talk to you and text messaged you every morning - to the point where they almost started to say the exact same thing... memories of which still make you smile.
They make you smile because you're not over it.
Moving on is an artform. To leave these terrible, bittersweet, amazing moments behind (yes, in the past! Never to be relived physically again. I repeat: IN THE PAST), and prepare to have more with someone new. It's nothing to be guilty over. It's just the way it is.
Fantasia barrino - Truth Is
Ran into an old friend yesterday
Caught me by surprise when he called my name
He was a familiar face, from a chapter in my past
Talked for a while, asked him how it's been
Said that he was seeing somebody and
Told me this was gonna last
Showing me her photograph
And all the feelings that I thought were gone
Came rushing back to me at once
Tried to smile and hide the way I felt
But I was thinking to myself
Truth is I never got over you
Truth is Wish I was standing in her shoes
Truth is And when it's all said and done
Guess I'm still in love with you
Truth is I never should have let you go
Truth is And it's killing me cuz now I know
Truth is And when it's all said and done
Guess I'm still in love with you
We reminisce on the way things used to be
Shared a couple laughs, shared some memories
Talked about the things that changed
Some for good and some for bad
Then he said good-bye and he paid for lunch
Promised that we'd always keep in touch
Grabbed my bags and grabbed my thoughts
Walked away and that was that
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