"I hope she knows you only like the beginning of things"
- Faye, Mad Men
A friend got me hooked on Mad Men recently. It got me thinking about a few things. Like, did admen of the 60's really consume that much alcohol while on the job?
Lose a client? Have a drink. Win a client? Have a drink. I need to see you in my office. Here's another drink.
It wasn't until Faye's quote above that I got to thinking about things other than whiskey. Unfortunately it made me empathise with the wanker in the situation, Don. After they had already started seeing each other, Don calls Faye to say he's marrying his secretary, to which she responds "I hope she knows you only like the beginning of things."
For me, the beginning of relationships is the most exciting. You know that feeling you get as a little kid opening a present? Even if it turned out to be shit (which, in most cases it was), somewhere along the line I got addicted to that little thrill of discovery. Everything is a surprise, everything unexpected.
Like the way they do things. Their likes and dislikes. Their stories. Their eyes under different lights and the way they laugh, then committing it to memory so you can replay it back later.
But like lines memorised from your favourite movie, relationships can get predictable. Maybe predictable is the wrong word. Others might call it stability.
However, another friend made a really good point in that, each to their own, people confuse lust for love as much as people confuse comfort for it - the truth of which relieved me of some of my guilt.
"I love the tension," he admits. And keeping the spark alive? Well that's a whole other life skill...
Love, Noeline
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